Sensual Philosophy …

First, I extend my thanks to “Twilighthush” for putting me onto LiveJournal. Even though she doesn’t know me, I ended up coming here through the maze of links that were contained within her pages. Now, onto meaningless items.

Tell me why is it that I am so horny right now? Damn. I mean, it’s only been like … now that I think about it … damn, it’s been over a month. I know some of you might be thinking, “that’s not too long.” For me, it is. Granted, the longest I have gone without it was a year, but that was because I wasn’t dealing with anyone in any shape, form, or fashion. I could attempt to make a phone call and have the problem solved. I could just beat my meat, right? Well, I will not make the phone call, and I already beat my meat (and that didn’t help). Even if I made the phone call, I would have to go all the way to Manhattan to Duane Reade to get prophylactics.

That’s my problem.

If I am not equipped at the time; even if the female is, it does me no good. It’s not like I could fit a regular-sized condom. And since they do not sell Trojan Magnum XL, or Large in my immediate area, I am assed-out. The problem making the phone call is that, I am a person gets pleasure out of being able to satisfy my partner, and I will often go out of the way to do so. With being a hopeless romantic; let’s say I did that with everyone I have sex. What would it be worth? Besides, once you have experienced the act of “making love”, nothing else can compare to it. Everything else might as well just be a “hand-job”.

Now, let me clear something up. The average person considers making love to merely be “slow sex”, when that is not the case. Slow sex is just that, “slow sex.” To make love one has to be in love, and if you are in love with someone that you are having sex with … no matter how fast, or slow you are going … you will always be making love.

“Making love” has no indication of speed. I could be straight up (please excuse my terminology), “fucking the shit out of someone”. If I am in love with that person, yes we are still fucking, but yes we are still making love. Following me? Nothing can top that feeling of being intertwined physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually with the person you are in love with. The way your heart beats is totally different. Your breathing, movements, even the sweat is different. Some of you may be thinking, “what is he talking about?”

Wait! Back to my condom problem.

Many men believe that being large is a good thing. Such men, usually wish they were larger. Whereas, any guy that is large knows it is more problematic than beneficial. Some guys, think that hitting a female’s cervix is pleasurable (for some women it is, for the majority it is not). A person can cause damage to a female doing that; everything from a uterine infection, to causing internal bleeding. Guys. if you pull out and the female is bleeding, but she says that she has had previous partners … that should be an indication that something is wrong (get a clue). See … now me, I am not too big. I am 10.5″ and as thick as my wrist.

My problem isn’t my length, it’s my girth. Length wise, a Trojan Magnum stops about three quarters of the way down (Magnums and Large condoms are not much larger than regular condoms). The reason for the extra width is because: due to girth one might find it difficult to get the condom past their glans, let alone, all the way down. Then, if one can get it down, incorrect pressure upon the underside of the glans cuts off circulation and can cause temporary impotence.

Often, I wish I was 8-9″ and a little thinner. I am not a foot long or anything but it’s annoying to not be able to push all the way in. It’s kinda like, when it is cold at night but the covers keep coming off your feet. You know how you hate that? Well it is like that, but worse. I mean, I could push all the way in … but that would not be such a good idea. The only time where it can happen is when the female is on top, cause then she can regulate how much she can take by easing herself down on it. However, I often find myself not being able to climax when the female is on top (depends on the person). As I said, I get pleasure out of pleasing the female. If I am at her mercy, then she in essence is pleasing herself and that’s not fun for me.

When making love, my favorite position is the lotus blossom position (read the Kama Sutra if you do not know what I am talking about). It is the position of sitting upright, with the female on top, both of your bodies against each other. The base of her feet touch each other behind the male. It is a good position because, when dealing with such things as Tantric love-making it promotes energy circulation (through the chakras). In any other position, the energy goes through one person (or both people), but then it terminates. I would explain it more but … this was not supposed to be a teaching session. However, since I am on the teaching session thought, and previously made the statement of, “get a clue”.

I have to vent about this.

Why is it, that seemingly only women take the time out to learn about sex/intercourse/lovemaking? Many men think it’s un-manly to open or purchase a book pertaining to the subject. Yet, instead, they think it is manly to come quickly, or maybe they can’t rise. I bet that’s manly, right? A lot of the times, there are things one can do about potential issues they may be having, if they just took the time to do a little research. Females … if you are having problems achieving orgasm, ironically a lot of the times it is not the male’s fault. You should be able to mentally control your ability to have an orgasm. Imagine that he is someone else. Imagine that he is doing something different. If you have tried that and it still does not help, then maybe it’s your pubococcygeous.

When men and women hold their urine there is a muscle group that flexes in the process. That muscle group is the pubococcygeous (hereby known as the “PC group”). If you are a female that has a hard time reaching orgasm and also have painful menstrual cramps, then that means you have a weak PC group. Such can result by a lack of physical activity, or even a lack of sexually activity. If you do not walk for a month wouldn’t your legs begin to atrophy?

Just as you can rehabilitate muscles through exercise, so can you increase sexual responsiveness. An added benefit is the decrease in menstrual cramp intensity. For some, it may even be a remedy. If you’d like to know more, pick up book “The G-Spot” by Alice Kahn-Ladas, and Dr. Beverly D. Whipple, you can get it at Barnes and Nobles, or Borders book and music.

Males … if you are having a hard time staying up after ejaculating, then you too can exercise your PC group, while also increasing your stamina and the intensity of orgasm. You can find that information in the same book, while also learning about a female’s G-Spot and the “female ejaculation” (which is not the same thing as an orgasm). When men cum they usually want to stop, just as when a female has a clitoral orgasm. Conversely, when a female ejaculates it’s usually accompanied by multiple orgasms and it does not have a resolution phase. She will still want to continue afterwards.

Plus the fact that the multiple orgasms th
at are achieved after the ejaculation .. do not subside .. which means the peak which is reached .. stays at that height … so if she were to come again, it would be two times as intense as the first time. The average resolutions phase for a female with a regular orgasm (both clitoral and vaginal, cause there are two different type of orgasms) is 15 -30 minutes … since the ejaculation produces the same reaction as both the clitoral and vaginal orgasm at the same time .. the resolution phase is about 1 hour to an hour and a half … imagine having an orgasm that lasts an hour. If a guy would just pick up a book I wouldn’t have to hear about the inadequacies of male performance. So many men are saying “so many women are ‘turning’ lesbian, it’s like an epidemic” … it is understandable … men are not there emotionally for women, and are not there physically for them … so why not go to someone else that would be such as another female? For a female would actually take the time out to please another female.

Yet men do not learn from things like that they simply make statements like “she just has issues” no niggah you have the issues, but your male ego has you stuck in stupid … and you do not even care about shifting the gears, yet you are rolling down the hill backwards while you are stuck in neutral with no brakes. Though I will say the odd thing is … because females are so used to men that act a certain way … they then end up dating a female that acts like them. Granted a butch female is still one step up from a male, because a butch female will still please a female. Yet the relationship would still have control issues etc, when the average femme is fighting for her independence. The only thing that would be logical is for a femme to date another femme. Only then will she be happy, because I do not see the ignorance a men changing anytime soon, thus more and more women will only deal with women. Men … it’s … wait no … “little boys” it’s time to grow the fuck up (for how can you be a man, if you can’t even be a man to your woman?). How can you ask your woman to do something that you are not willing to do yourself. You want to be pleased waited on hand and foot … sooner or later you are going to realize that it’s not that she went to the kitchen to cook for you … she actually walked out the door to go to her partner’s house.

All in all .. my rant went from me talking about my sexual frustration … to me talking about everyone’s sexual frustration … but guess what … I am still horny. Oh well I hope someone will learn from the things that I typed. I am a person that could talk about sex for days … so I think I will end it here. So this is Prasand … sexually frustrated until the morning .. signing off … later.