Sensual Philosophy …

Maybe I should kill the music, I think it distracts. Why did you find it to be sad?

The music might not be the best for it… lol
It’s sad because it’s obvious it was written from experiance and not from logic. It’s sad knowing not everyone will find someone like that.

Actually it was written from logic. I never made those mistakes. I’ve always been aware of the decision. It came about because of a conversation I was having with one of my childhood exs in a dream about the things she was doing. The conversation was warm, so the words came out as such. However, it’s a perspective I’ve spoken over the years to many people I know. Just never conveyed it like that. The only experience I can say I have is that … most people are afraid of dating their close friend.

I’m not. Shit, I’m the one that plays with the possibility or brings it up. lmfao. Though I wasn’t always, some joked about it … like “I really should stop bothering with these guys and just marry you.” To which I’d say … “okay.” However, they wouldn’t have the guts to actually go through with it. However, we were in highschool at the time.

In general, people are afraid of making sane decisions. Things which are clear.

It takes two to stand by … to hold on. The fact that you do not have such a person, says a lot about your own actions or choices.

That’s the thing, it is mad. The reality is, what society finds to be the norm is sanity. Yet, society is one where people will search religiously for the qualities that their friends have … in people who are opposite of them. Since the logic “opposites attract” is a rule that many follow. They do not realize that the things they desire, the person they are with is not even capable of because they’re opposite.

They are used to a certain type of passion. One born from conflict since those who are opposite “oppose”. It is only in time, that as one accepts themselves … that they seek one who shares the similar qualities (while still mantaining some diversity) … thus, compliments. Someone suited to be a friend because they get us, but yet … one who never entered the realm. For once someone gets into the position of being a very good friend … the fears of “losing the friendship” and others … such as the lack of passion … kicks in. Though people don’t realize … there’s another kind of intense passion, that is not born from conflict. However, it’s achieved only when we submit. Which is, one of the most scariest notions to the ego @ true submission … and one of the most difficult things to do. For even one who’s passive can still submit.

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As far as lasting more than a few years. Ummm that’s a social delusion created because people repeatingly make poor decisions. It doesn’t last because of the people they pick, and their inability to stand by each other. Let’s say that they survive the conflicts, etc … and the passion is lost. The drive and desire is gone. The reason why is because they picked someone where there wasn’t more that actually bonded them. There wasn’t more about the person that actually moved them. Hence, my earlier statements.

Poor decisions.

Though this entry isn’t about “being with a friend” at all. This entry is about making a conscious choice of love, instead of being a victim. It can be a friend, it can be an enemy or an ex … anyone who’s proven themselves to be worthy of us. It is that decision which is sane, to give ourselves to one who’s worthy. Yet, people repeatingly give themselves to those who are not. So I ask, “what are you worth?” However, even that is insane. Since it’s the standard to give yourself to someone unworthy, thus giving yourself to someone worthy is crazy to them … even if the person isn’t a friend.

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@ your last thought.

Yes.

I also used to believe that in order for love to be true, one must have the strength to do it and follow through. Yet, that’s a bit idealistic and completely unrealistic. The reality is … love comes in varying degrees, and in each degree it comes in … it’s true … for love is love even if it’s purely mental … it just may not be the extreme. Then, even if love is non-mental and extreme … one’s mind is still capable of denying it. Since the fear which comes with such an extreme love, is just as powerful and moving as the extreme love itself. True vulnerability is defeaningly scary, and blindingly beautiful.

Anyone who’s felt it … knows the fear very well.

It’s probably the scariest thing anyone will ever experience in their life. The ability to follow through is purely about if they are able to overcome their ego. One can say if they truly love then they will muster the will to do so … but that is also idealistic, and completely unrealistic. We live in a society where people do not regularly demonstrate skills of strong will. It takes one to learn how to do it. Even though I’m one of the advocates of one not playing the victim, I still know that unless one knows how to do it … it’s near impossible for them to. Which is why I break down the steps to overcoming fear. I don’t just say one is a victim, I break down why they are so they can see what’s there.

Others would just say they are a victim and believe they can just change that fact. Though regardless of my attempt to show it, many do not see it. Since their ego won’t accept that they are making themselves the victim, or won’t identify with the reality of being the victim.

Such is life.

I’m curious … what do you do that prevents you from having such people?

Of course … a mother tends to think differently after having a child. You as a single-mother have already come to terms with your decision … and love your children immensely. You wouldn’t love them any less regardless of the situation. However, there are plenty of people who say it was an accident. Plenty of people who think differently. That wonder what it would’ve been like. There are plenty of people who are afraid of that happening. Especially men. Then there are plenty of women who do not want to have a child with a man who will not be there. So I ask them … what will you decide?

Now in regards to those second-best lovers. I actually wasn’t talking about the fans … I specifically said someone who is worthy. Those lap dogs that would lick your boots, aren’t worthy of anything more than a bullet to their head to put them out of their misery. Maybe I should’ve more directly addressed them … but they were too insignificant to acknowledge at that moment. I wouldn’t recommend breeding with such men … opps my bad … guys even if your life depended on it. I was actually talking about the only real lovers a person has. The ones you have a very strong relationship with. Those worthy of being called companions.

and when I say that I mean someone close enough to you to be judged by different standards. Maybe even someone who redefines standards.

Many focus on a specific kind of passion. A passion spawned due to the clashing of personalities and existences … for our society thrives on the premise that opposites attract. Which is indeed true … but it’s only complimentary existences which can perpetually move. If the latter can be found, and security maintained in that moment of vulnerability … without allowing our egos to create problems that don’t have to exist … we reap the benefits of another kind of passion.

Just as intense, but less obvious because it’s not born from conflict … but instead found in utter and complete submission. Letting go of ourselves, and allowing ourselves to be controlled by the moment. Truly. Utterly. Tranquil passion. It takes security for passion to be found in tranquility. It takes appreciation, focus, and the realization that some dreams are anti-productive and destructive. In the moment we truly see it or experience it … we realize just how many true lovers we let pass before … since we were so focused on conflict, addicted to drama.

Funny.

it is the responsibility of the individual to distinguish between four things…this term we throw around kind of loosely…PASSION…and then, of course, EMOTION but then very importantly, physical chemistry-attraction. BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY true love-commitment. emotional outbursts are usually short lived while passion lives on even after the death of a connection (the point of detrminent someties). then there is familiarity, convenience, and comfort that we mistake for “love”. Phsyical chemistry is a tricky little bastard. We all know this. The fact is, we tend to either over-analyze, or under-analyze the true meaning of “connectivity” and utlimately, love. Love is hard work. It is an artform, lost these days. It seems people simply give up instead of giving in. Humility is so under-rated. The ability to take it for the long-haul and figure out ways to keep love alive. Compromise. Empathy. Putting self aside. Of course, there are times, when people do indeed love so hard they can’t let go of the deadened corpse. I relish the intrigue behind these things simply because it is part of educating and revelation as we grow upon this intense hot planet earth, or temporary home. I guess if we can get an inkling of what this all means, we can find spiritual love in the end.

I love the way you put that, and have nothing to add. It left me completely satisfied.

This blog sums up the the differences between manz need for phyiscal love & a womens need for mental love. If ever we find a balance & follow something more bigger, brighter & more forfilling we may just make it.

I 4 1, hand of heart walked every single one of those words.

Until I chose 2 be certain. The need 2 have ’someone’ is a strong calling. Until U realise the desire 2 be U. At which point your life stop being a design of circumstance, but a journey of choice. At which point you realise simply, what love is & could be…

Inspiring blog 4 sure…

I wonder if you did so.