Sensual Philosophy …

We often delude that it’s possible to evolve with someone who’s different. Yet in actuality, a ‘difference’ is a lack of unity; and due to conflict we individually, internally, grow against that person or because of that person. — Depending on our observation we may find that beautiful, and appreciate being inspired by them. That’s fine; but regardless, we have not grown nor evolved ‘with’ them. That growth is our own progress within ourselves, fostered or contributed by the person who’s different. As such, due to the exposure of something different we have grown as a person, but have not evolved as a person.

To understand evolution, let us imagine a butterfly.

It lives, it flies, it eats, and is eaten. There are millions of similar butterflies doing the same thing, yet none are exactly the same. There are various deformities, like the color of their wings, size, etc. If the habitat of the butterflies is typically yellow, but the butterflies are generally orange, then the butterflies with deformities closer to yellow have a greater chance of survival (camouflage).

With each generation, natural selection (predators) will cause there to be a larger group of butterflies that survive. Each generation will have been pruned to a degree that yellow butterflies will become dominant. The genes will lean to yellow so much (warped redundantly), that it will eventually consistently produce yellow, and orange will be virtually extinct (dormant or recessive gene).

In turn, the predators will require better eyesight, or skill to differentiate the butterflies. Those who have it will eat well (thrive), and those who do not will starve in comparison (ultimately perishing or become extinct); a inverse natural selection. If two predators with good eye-sight reproduce, they too will warp their genes to a degree that those genes will purposely produce offspring with greater eye-sight. If they mate with a predator with poor eye-sight, by chance they may produce an offspring with greater eye-sight; but the probability is lower.

That is evolution.

Evolution is the perpetuation and growth of traits to promote well-being. It is the development of what exists, not the creation of that which doesn’t. As such, by definition when we grow as a person we are de-evolving. This isn’t inherently a “bad” thing, most people prefer to grow as a person. That can be an innate desire, but is usually a learned desire. Regardless, with everything there are pros and cons. If we interact with someone who causes us to diversify ourselves, we become conflicted.

eg. Jane loves fashion.

She drinks it, eats it, sleeps it, breathes it; but she’s dating Harry who hates fashion. Harry is a sports fanatic. Any sport, all sports, if they compete with physical prowess he enjoys it. Jane is completely uninterested in sports, and Harry couldn’t give two shits about fashion. Though because of the lack of unity in the relationship, they decide to expose each other to the variation. After many attempts, and approaches, they finally learn to appreciate each other’s interests.

That is a beautiful thing.

For that’s how we’re taught to perceive it. Besides how we are taught, it’s beautiful in the sense that Jane and Harry loved each other enough to overcome themselves for love. — However, in the duration Jane doesn’t realize that while she’s expanding her horizons she’s belittling the self that existed prior. She may still love fashion, but where she gave 100% of her time to fashion, she now gives 60% of it, and 40% goes to various other things. It’s still a large number, hence why in her eyes she still loves fashion. Yet, the mentality that’s required in order to implement that is: we must perceive that which we once valued, to be some degree less significant than it used to be. In other words, it’s become in some ways insignificant.

That’s the birth of insecurity and doubt in ourselves.

Granted, in actuality insecurity is born the moment we first experience pain (thus at birth), but for the sake of this situation if we didn’t know insecurity prior to that moment, we will have learned it because of that moment. In actuality, that insecurity is just one of the many added to the list throught our existence, and it’s significance / effect on us decreases or increases based on the momentum or weight it gains. — Regardless, in expanding our horizons, we lose our focus, become insecure, and doubt ourselves; but in being focused, we lose our exposure, become complacent, and know nothing but ourselves. Inevitably, the stance we take will have cons as well as pros. In the end, it comes down to preference. What we desire to do is all that matters.

Nonetheless, we can only evolve with someone we are similar, and nature itself through natural selection mandates the importance of that. Only someone with whom we are similar (truly loves us) will support and perpetuate us (thus foster our happiness); and we’ll only know insecurity with someone we are not similar, but they will foster the happiness we are taught to perceive (thus, mental happiness, and not actual). If you care to prove it to yourself, simply try to quantify your happiness. If you can, put actual numbers on it, then it’s because you have something tangible to base those numbers on. As such, if you can’t, it’s intangible and not actual / true happiness.

Since childhood, most of the things we’re taught are in defiance of or reject evolutionary relationships. So we spend our lives applying those things, creating / manipulating ourselves, until we lose sight of ourselves, and then must find ourselves. it’s only when we become tired of the stress, and conflicts, that we seek accordance, and allow us to “be” ourselves. In other words, it is then that the spice of life no longer interests, because the spice comes at a price; and that price is,

ourselves.

- Prasand J.

Do you want to evolve?
It’s not wrong to say, no.