We often delude that it’s possible to evolve with someone who’s different. Yet in actuality, a ‘difference’ is a lack of unity; and due to conflict we individually, internally, grow against that person or because of that person. — Depending on our observation we may find that beautiful, and appreciate being inspired by them. That’s fine; but regardless, we have not grown nor evolved ‘with’ them. That growth is our own progress within ourselves, fostered or contributed by the person who’s different. As such, due to the exposure of something different we have grown as a person, but have not evolved as a person.

To understand evolution, let us imagine a butterfly.

It lives, it flies, it eats, and is eaten. There are millions of similar butterflies doing the same thing, yet none are exactly the same. There are various deformities, like the color of their wings, size, etc. If the habitat of the butterflies is typically yellow, but the butterflies are generally orange, then the butterflies with deformities closer to yellow have a greater chance of survival (camouflage).

With each generation, natural selection (predators) will cause there to be a larger group of butterflies that survive. Each generation will have been pruned to a degree that yellow butterflies will become dominant. The genes will lean to yellow so much (warped redundantly), that it will eventually consistently produce yellow, and orange will be virtually extinct (dormant or recessive gene).

In turn, the predators will require better eyesight, or skill to differentiate the butterflies. Those who have it will eat well (thrive), and those who do not will starve in comparison (ultimately perishing or become extinct); a inverse natural selection. If two predators with good eye-sight reproduce, they too will warp their genes to a degree that those genes will purposely produce offspring with greater eye-sight. If they mate with a predator with poor eye-sight, by chance they may produce an offspring with greater eye-sight; but the probability is lower.

That is evolution.

Evolution is the perpetuation and growth of traits to promote well-being. It is the development of what exists, not the creation of that which doesn’t. As such, by definition when we grow as a person we are de-evolving. This isn’t inherently a “bad” thing, most people prefer to grow as a person. That can be an innate desire, but is usually a learned desire. Regardless, with everything there are pros and cons. If we interact with someone who causes us to diversify ourselves, we become conflicted.

eg. Jane loves fashion.

She drinks it, eats it, sleeps it, breathes it; but she’s dating Harry who hates fashion. Harry is a sports fanatic. Any sport, all sports, if they compete with physical prowess he enjoys it. Jane is completely uninterested in sports, and Harry couldn’t give two shits about fashion. Though because of the lack of unity in the relationship, they decide to expose each other to the variation. After many attempts, and approaches, they finally learn to appreciate each other’s interests.

That is a beautiful thing.

For that’s how we’re taught to perceive it. Besides how we are taught, it’s beautiful in the sense that Jane and Harry loved each other enough to overcome themselves for love. — However, in the duration Jane doesn’t realize that while she’s expanding her horizons she’s belittling the self that existed prior. She may still love fashion, but where she gave 100% of her time to fashion, she now gives 60% of it, and 40% goes to various other things. It’s still a large number, hence why in her eyes she still loves fashion. Yet, the mentality that’s required in order to implement that is: we must perceive that which we once valued, to be some degree less significant than it used to be. In other words, it’s become in some ways insignificant.

That’s the birth of insecurity and doubt in ourselves.

Granted, in actuality insecurity is born the moment we first experience pain (thus at birth), but for the sake of this situation if we didn’t know insecurity prior to that moment, we will have learned it because of that moment. In actuality, that insecurity is just one of the many added to the list throught our existence, and it’s significance / effect on us decreases or increases based on the momentum or weight it gains. — Regardless, in expanding our horizons, we lose our focus, become insecure, and doubt ourselves; but in being focused, we lose our exposure, become complacent, and know nothing but ourselves. Inevitably, the stance we take will have cons as well as pros. In the end, it comes down to preference. What we desire to do is all that matters.

Nonetheless, we can only evolve with someone we are similar, and nature itself through natural selection mandates the importance of that. Only someone with whom we are similar (truly loves us) will support and perpetuate us (thus foster our happiness); and we’ll only know insecurity with someone we are not similar, but they will foster the happiness we are taught to perceive (thus, mental happiness, and not actual). If you care to prove it to yourself, simply try to quantify your happiness. If you can, put actual numbers on it, then it’s because you have something tangible to base those numbers on. As such, if you can’t, it’s intangible and not actual / true happiness.

Since childhood, most of the things we’re taught are in defiance of or reject evolutionary relationships. So we spend our lives applying those things, creating / manipulating ourselves, until we lose sight of ourselves, and then must find ourselves. it’s only when we become tired of the stress, and conflicts, that we seek accordance, and allow us to “be” ourselves. In other words, it is then that the spice of life no longer interests, because the spice comes at a price; and that price is,

ourselves.

- Prasand J.

Do you want to evolve?
It’s not wrong to say, no.

(some of the contents of this entry is erroneous. These errors were obvious upon re-reading, and originally I decided to re-write and expand this entry; but upon learning more about the A, and Deep Spot I decided not to. Just take it in stride; do not try to apply everything blindly).
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I love to learn new things about sex, intimacy, and passion. My addiction to that knowledge is so extreme, that informational books on the subject are the only type of books I consistently read. It’s gotten so bad that now I buy books to simply check if there’s something I didn’t know or learn already, for the information becomes redundant and eventually unappealing. As such, when one of my exs finds something interesting they’ll tell me about it … link me to it, or something of that nature. Well, last night my ex Liza Mae stepped up to the plate … and boy did she deliver.

I missed that feeling of learning something new about sex. The shit was so satisfying, I almost needed to smoke after reading it (however, I stopped smoking in December). I told her that I was going to be stingy with the information, until I’ve read it quite a few times. Though, I’ve decided that this tidbit is a bit too juicy to keep contained. The other day I recommended a book about the G-Spot, but here is an online article about the:

Induced Vaginal Orgasm: The A-Spot & The Deep Spot

Women experience three different types of orgasms – clitoral, ejaculatory, and vaginal. In some cases these orgasms can be linked, two or all three types can happen at once. Compounded with that … ejaculatory and vaginal orgasms both are capable of producing multiple orgasms. However, that’s beyond the scope of this … for it’s a rather extensive subject. For many years, it was concluded that the vaginal orgasm was emotionally or psychologically linked. Although, that remains true (aka a woman will orgasm if she truly wants to) … the above article reflects that there is also a physical basis — one which will induce an involuntary vaginal orgasm, regardless of one’s psychosis. That is fucking potent. It’s a shame I’m celibate and as such don’t have anyone to try it on. So you know what? One good turn deserves another. Try it out, give me feedback … thanks.

Though it doesn’t end there.

This is for the females that like the snuffalupagus, or the men who have one. It’s something that I’ve known for years, but truly only spoke about in chatroom dialogues. If you are a man who’s circumcised, and insecure I advise that you don’t read it (or at least don’t read the rest of what I wrote). Read the article first, and then continue to read what I wrote after. Hopefully these links that I provided will stay up, if not let me know (I have a copy of the originals).

The Effects of Male Circumcision

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The Effects of Male Circumcision on Female Arousal and Orgasm

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A woman’s vagina is sensitive due to her lubrication. Remove her lubrication and her skin would become hard, and dry. The same thing is the case for the male penis. Smegma commonly characterized as dirty, is actually produced by both men and women. For women it keeps her clitoris healthy / protected. For men it does the same for their glans (head), but also lubricates their shaft. The protection comes from in the sense of friction; a silky substance equals greatly reduced friction. Without the production of smegma the glans becomes less sensitive.

It is theorized, that the reason for circumcision was to purposely lessen a man’s attachment to sexual pleasures. Many assume that it was to promote cleanliness, due to the presence of smegma. However, uncharacteristically of it’s appearance smegma is also a cleaning agent, and as such is clean. It is excreted in the same manner as vaginal secretions, and as such has the same purpose. In many regards it’s considered to be nasty because of how it looks. Though realize as previously stated women produce smegma also, however due to the size of the clitoris the volume produced is much less noticeable. While it is possible their intention was to promote cleanliness, due to their ignorance on the subject … it is more probable that the basis of it, was to make men more dedicated to their faith. For premature deductive reasoning dictates, take away the pleasure … and pleasure isn’t sought as much.

That brings into play the irony of the matter.

Lessening one’s pleasure detaches a person from their pleasure. This as a result, is why many men are detached from sex. See the thing is, the shaft of a penis of a circumcised man receives relatively no pleasure. The shaft has significantly less pleasure receptors, due to the development of keratin (tough skin). In result, said man receives his pleasure from his glans (which has exponentially more nerves, as such even when it’s toughened it’s still more sensitive than the shaft), and the base of his penis where there is still some actual skin. However, the problem doesn’t stop there … the glans’ pleasure is significantly decreased due to the lack of lubrication, and being constantly exposed to the elements.

Women on the other hand are emotionally attached to sex (if psychological factors / issues of detachment are not introduced). The reasons why this is the case is because of their literal sensitivity due to lubrication and softness … but also because it’s a rather enveloping / internal thing for them. The concept “being inside of me” in turn productively creates the needed attachment. Additionally, the level of pleasure received can be quite overwhelming … that submersion adds to that attachment. Thus, contrarily a circumcised man has no physically induced reason to be attached to the woman due to their detached pleasure.

This in turn contributes to infidelity, on many levels … hence the irony.

The lack of pleasure creates an addiction to seeking pleasure, due to them being unsatisfied. While on the other hand if they had their full amount of pleasure satisfaction is easier had. As such, ironically their intention to make men more devout in religion also made men become even greater sex fiends. Take it from a man who’s not circumcised, and knows other uncircumcised men. A uncircumcised man is less prone to have casual sex, due to their attachment to sex. Every single man that I know who has a problem with infidelity is circumcised, and almost every single man I know who is uncircumcised is faithful. Well, actually faithful longer … relationship problems eventually cause unfaithfulness with them.

As such, I don’t know of a single truly faithful man … and I know a hell of a lot of good men.

The only faithful men I’ve heard of were ones who took vows of celibacy, virgins, or uncircumcised men who are satisfied in their relationship … a phenomenon I have yet to actually witness myself, lol. Even I, am only dedicated now since I’ve been celibate for almost two years, and haven’t even romantically kissed nor touched a woman in that time. That aside, irrespective of relationship issues people face … infidelity with men, in many cases is actually a physical problem … due to their own physical inadequacy. Which is why I said a circumcised man should not read this, for it will promote their feelings of inadequacy unless they are extremely secure. The secondary article reflects why a woman is not easily satisfied by a circumcised man. However, if I recall correctly it does neglect one thing.

The pileup of foreskin on the base of the shaft … provides clitoral stimulation as well as giving more girth, softness and smoothness for penetration. Thus removing the foreskin also removes six sources of pleasure for a woman (the others outlined in the provided links). To make matters worse. Logically, a man who receives more pleasure should be prone to becoming more excited. This is true. However, another problem is presented in circumcision. A man who’s circumcised, his scrotum will ascend (nuts will rise / tighten), as soon as he has an erection. The reason why, is because due to the fact there is less skin to compensate for the erection, the skin of the scrotum is pulled forward.

If the top of the penis does not have adequate skin … the tight skin on top is what causes the penis to curve. Many women like a curved penis, but the ramifications of it is reflected in the size of the curved penis. During his growth (age / size) a man’s penile development is hindered when there isn’t enough skin to be used as his body grows. The skin restricts and as such, the man ends up being smaller than he would’ve been. That aside, the ascension of his scrotum hastens ejaculation drastically.

A uncircumcised man’s nuts only rise when semen buildup causes his scrotum to tighten — buildup which is only induced after ample stimulation. So while although he becomes more easily excited, due to his increased sensitivity … he takes longer to ejaculate for his nuts need more time to ascend. On the other hand, within a circumcised man the ascension of the scrotum is forcefully had, upon erection. Think of it like this, although the circumcised man’s nuts have already risen they are not truly tight. The distance between a relaxed state of an uncircumcised man’s nuts and his raised state … is further than the distance of an uncircumcised man’s before and after state.

Hence … he’ll cum quickly.

This leaves many women unsatisfied, because their session was cut off prematurely. Granted, there are many psychological factors which add to early ejaculation (not to be confused with pre-mature ejaculation). One’s own level of excessive excitability will cause hasty buildup and release in either man. Though even in that case, with overly excited men the uncircumcised man will still take less time than the man who is circumcised. A man’s inadequacy has many ramifications. It is even reflected in a man’s desire for tight vagina versus loose. This desire is not truly reflective of the amount of pressure. Granted greater pressure on harder skin is needed to be truly felt. However, that the pressure is primarily had on the shaft (the end of a vagina is wider than the opening which is reflected in the A-Spot document linked) … when the shaft relatively feels nothing. The fact is, men do not want to feel lost in a vagina.

This instills active thoughts about their inability to please her. As such, while having sex their mind focuses on this factor of ego, instead of focusing on their pleasure. Whereas in a situation of tightness, thus promoting their traction … they feel they are doing more. This frees up their focus on inadequacy, allowing them to let their pleasure to be … but at the same time increasing their mental pleasure as they think they are doing more (pleasing her). This in turn is probably why many men perceive themselves to have caught wreck, even when they didn’t. While the woman is truly unsatisfied, because he’s lacking the proper tools to fully please her (thus lacking in six departments, besides their lessened size due to skin restriction). In essence, women have learned to accept less than what they physically and naturally deserve. Women in turn become satisfied by lesser forms of pleasure, because that’s quite literally all they know. The social stigmas attached to uncircumcised penis prevents many women from being able to experience true pleasure, because many women in turn stay away from men who aren’t circumcised.

Funny how that works out.

Wow … I’ve been typing about this for awhile. I could write a book on this shit, going off of my memory alone. I’ll conclude this. Infidelity can be a purely psychological issue for some people. It can be a social issue for others, due to relationship issues and dissatisfaction. However, this reflects that there is also a physical basis for one’s infidelity. I’m not trying to justify a man’s cheating in any way, though I understand that some men just can’t help it … because they are physically inadequate, and that cannot be helped. The only thing which can be done … is to let people be aware of these things. Initially, it will cause even greater insecurities in men. However, when the truth is socially acceptable … the awareness of this will cause people to be more conscious of where they are lacking.

I imagine that this in turn will make those inadequate men focus on pleasing a woman more, as they seek to effort in the pleasure of where they are lacking. For example, a man knows that his lack of foreskin doesn’t provide adequate clitoral stimulation. Due to his awareness of this, he thus focuses on stimulating her clitoris more … so that performance wise he doesn’t feel inadequate. Whereas the lack of this knowledge, promotes ignorance and as such socially although men know that clitoral stimulation is pleasurable for a woman … they do not focus on it because they believe that vaginal pleasure is sufficient. This results in a man who tends to the clitoris prior to penetration, but only sporadically if at all … after penetration.

Even if you personally do not know of this behavior, it can be easily seen in porn flicks. Where even men who are often skilled in the task only stimulate the woman’s clit sporadically. The women then often find themselves stimulating their own clit to compensate for where that man is lacking. The habits of these women is not based upon their voracious appetite for pleasure. It’s truly based upon the fact that naturally they “should” be getting that stimulation. Many women say that the motion is what pleases, however on one hand you have a man who’s circumsized and great in bed … imagine him being fully equipped (where the six areas in which he lacks, he does not). Additionally, many women are pleased even more when a man’s attached irrespective of his sexual performance … that shared passion, and emotional attachment is definitive. Though that’s also beyond the scope of this.

Although their physical condition cannot be helped … awareness of their state may become a powerful tool indeed.

For a man who’s detached from sex, he needs substantial facts to prove that he’s doing something wrong (a result of the detached state of a man’s mind). A woman purely speaking on his detachment during sex, may not get the same effect as proving to him that he’s detached. Psychologically, a man may in turn be more conscious of his detachment, thus efforting more towards his attachment willingly. Either that or it’ll give him an excuse to justify his infidelity, prompting him to do it more as he excuses it saying, “I can’t help it.” lmfao.

As one becomes more aware of themselves — their body and handicaps — one in turn becomes more aware of how they can please themselves, and be happier. Although, I’m a firm believer in the concept ignorance is bliss … I believe that misinformation, or a lack of information is detrimental more than it’s worth (in some cases) … in a post Eden society. Or rather, within the minds of those who actually think. I don’t feel blissfully ignorant people’s happiness should be disrupted. I feel those who are not blissfully ignorant, should be provided with the tools that they can use to make themselves happier. For example, a woman in love aware of her lover’s affliction, will be more attentive to his needs and condition, as well as being more aware of her own pleasure. That to me is potent. For through the education of this it compensates for some of the areas which are lacking in relationships.

Marinate on that for a bit.

Later.

- Prasand J.

Everything we think is a delusion. The human brain is an amazing thing, and with it we were blessed with the ability to create. However, with creation comes destruction. The destruction of truth.

Remember the game telephone?

A key example of how one’s perception of what is, warps what is to the point that what is, no longer is … but was. It was truth, but is no longer truth. Two men have a conversation, the statements of one man … inspire thoughts within the mind of the other. At a later date, the second man tries to convey the conversation to another. Tries to recall the words of the first man, and conveys it to the best of his ability.

It doesn’t matter if he’s not able to say exactly the same thing, in exactly the same tone or speed. The main point is that he’s able to convey it, right? Right, because regardless what is said, the truth will inspire (for truth always inspires). However, what he’s conveying isn’t fully true … it has become his version of the truth. It is a mixture of the inspired truth, and his own delusions … as his mind filtered, and diluted the potency of that which inspired him.

He may consciously alter the story, in an effort to make it “better”. When the fact is, the truth was good enough as it was. Stories get converted to proverbs. Proverbs get converted to poems. People arrogantly perceive themselves to make things better, instead of leaving well enough alone. Another flaw of the mind, a safe guard of sorts … to prevent those of us with the capacity, from truly climbing the tower of Babble. So we stutter our way though.

Everything we think is filtered through our biases. Thus, everything we think is a delusion. Some can move closer to the truth, and others think with less filters … these people become a type of living inspiration. For everytime they speak, they inspire with truth. I am not such a man that speaks without filters … for I am conveying a mixture of truth and creation/delusions. For delusions are created, and everything created is a delusion. For example, you have a rock vs. you make a rock.

So what is the truth?

The truth can only be conveyed in terms of present or past. What is, or what was … can never be changed. It will always be static. What will be, isn’t set in stone … unless thinking from the perception of destiny (but even destiny can’t be foreseen). Only the heart / the soul … knows the truth. The heart only know what is, and what was. However, because of this it also knows what isn’t, and what wasn’t.

Meet a stranger on the street, and get a sense of eerie familiarity. The connection which existed is the truth, even if we can’t understand it. The more we try to understand it, the more we filter it and it moves further from the truth. Our classifications defeat us. This would not be problematic, if people purely listened to their hearts. For then only that which is true would inspire the next. However, that is not the case … and in result, people become inspired by both truth and delusions (however, the truth will always inspire).

Understand that, delusions are not lies. Delusions are merely creations. Like a day dream for example. Although it is not real, it is not a lie. It is true, but it is not the truth. We mislead others in our selfish agendas. For that which we desire, is the most biased. In result, our greatest filters exist swaying the minds of those who would follow our delusions. It’s fine to share our creations, but to convey that the creation is the truth, that is the lie which misleads. The simple act of clarifying, produces extremely different results.

Still the mind, and speak the truth to the best of our ability. Allow the heart to guide in moments of silence / stillness. Allow stillness to exist. Inspire others with the truth, and divide the delusions.

- Prasand